It makes sense that you’ve been struggling to move through conflicts.
Most of us have been given so little when it comes to skills for navigating conflict and communication. And we can forget that our own trauma can get entangled in our present day interactions.
Slowing down conflict processes so there’s spaciousness to actually hear each person’s experience is vital for a felt-sense of safety and belonging.
From there, it’s less likely that we’ll keep triggering each other, which opens space to untangle the threads of conflict in a generative, healing, trust-rebuilding way.
Working with me, you will begin to experience conflict as an opportunity for growth and healing, instead of something to run from.
To get there, we integrate these principles:
Conflict needs warm, empathic presence to unwind. So often we are stuck in judging or blaming ourselves and others. Shifting to a lens that acknowledges the feelings at play can deepen everyone’s sense of safety and belonging.
When we can move away from strategies (which is where conflict often gets stuck) and focus on underlying needs, more compassion, clarity and creativity can emerge.
Once we’ve assessed needs, we can call in support to help us move through the stuck places we weren’t able to navigate on our own (individually and/or collectively).
We all have untapped potential when it comes to navigating conflict, and can grow our own tools, and also deepen in our own personal healing, all in support of showing up with more capacity.
Looking for the ways systems of power and privilege are playing out can help get us to what’s at the heart of a conflict.